When someone is convinced that they are bad or a failure, they will go to great lengths to filter out any incoming evidence that counters that belief. But even more heartbreaking, they will actively recruit others ( who are attempting to counter their negative thinking ) into aiding their efforts to build a case against themself.  The deeply held belief that they are bad is so strong and compelling , entertaining anything positive that might disprove that belief, creates to

I remember the first time a client sat across from me and quietly confessed, “I’m not even sure if what I’m going through counts as abuse.” Her voice trembled, not just from fear—but from years of being taught that suffering in silence was somehow her duty. Like many survivors of domestic violence, her story was entangled in cultural expectations, spiritual manipulation, and profound emotional isolation. That moment has stayed with me. Over the years, I’ve worked with countle

I will never forget the final time I took Ephedra (via Xenadrine). I was in my parents’ house. I woke up from a dream that my heart was...

What a lot of folks are experiencing right now, during the 2020 COVID19 Pandemic, is akin to grief. The loss may not be of an actual...