Hi, I’m Ryan (He/Him). I'm so glad you're here. Since you found your way here, I'll share what I'd want for you as your counselor:
To Grow & to Thrive
Choosing to show up as your full, authentic, messy, vibrant self will set you on a path toward peace and more genuine connection with others.
Choosing Yourself Will Set you Free
I'm not saying it's an easy process. Choosing to embrace who YOU are can be scary. Especially if the world around you is telling you that who you are is not okay. Especially if the world around you is sending you messages that you must shrink yourself to be deserving of worth. I can't promise you this process of healing and recovery will be easy but I can promise you, it will be worth it.
I Want To Help You Be Brave
That's how I believe change works: NOT by listening to how everyone else defines you. Not by conforming yourself to what everyone else is doing. Not by accepting a narrative that has been imposed on you by others.
But by listening to YOUR own intuition and deciding that your authentic self is worth embracing.
By being brave enough to show up in your own life as your full self.
Real Change Happens When
We Allow Our Real Selves to show up
This is not an all-or-nothing process. As a bicultural, bisexual daughter of an immigrant, I know the the challenges of showing up as our full selves in a culture that is not always safe for or embracing of individuals whose identities fall outside of those that are considered more valuable. I know from my own journey of self-acceptance that there are a lot of messages floating around telling folks like me (maybe like you!?) how we are supposed to exist in this world and what parts of ourselves are "okay" to embrace and expose to others. I help people who seek stability and self-acceptance but who hold themselves back because of past experiences or because of external voices who think they know better than YOU about who you are.
(Spoiler alert: They don't!!!).
I want to help you forge your own path and experience comfort in your own truth so that
You Can Live Your Fullest Life Possible.
Here I am, asking you to be brave, so I want to offer you some examples of how I've chosen to be brave in my life:
1. Accepting my own mistakes (and reconciling what aren't MY mistakes to own)
2. Acknowledging that I did not deserve past traumas (neither did you).
3. Committing to myself and to creating a life that my inner child would go bananas for
4. Radically forgiving myself (I'm only human. So are you!)
5. Embracing a willingness to learn about the things I don't know and trusting that it is okay to allow life to unfold
What about you? How have YOU chosen to be brave in your life and what do you feel ready to tackle next? I'd love to learn more about the ways you're already showing up to your life AND how you'd like to show up even more as your full self.
Your Full Self Deserves To Be Seen & Affirmed
If you're ready to show up and be seen, I'd love to work with you.
READY TO CHOOSE BRAVE?
Raleigh & Telehealth offices
Want more specifics about my training and experience?
Read on below:
MY EDUCATION & TRAINING
I have a BS in Middle Grades Education from North Carolina State University. I am a second year graduate student in the department of Counseling & Educational Development at the the University of North Carolina at Greensboro (UNCG), completing my counseling internship, working under the direct supervision of Dr. Maria Paredes, LCMHCS, CEDS-S.
MY THEORETICAL APPROACH:
In my work, I operate from existential and DBT frameworks, believing in the power of meaning-making and radical acceptance. I believe individuals have the capacity for change within themselves and seek to walk alongside them as they build their awareness, sense of purpose, and direction.
Specific to eating disorders and body image, I operate from a Health At Every Size and Intuitive Eating approach and philosophy.
I am proudly Queer-Affirming, committed to social justice, and attempt to use my own power and privilege to increase access for others without.
In my spare time, I enjoy reading, playing with my dogs (Marlie, Lola, and Meeko), cooking, and hiking. My favorite read of the year has been The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller with Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel coming in at a close second. My favorite dishes to cook are typically Asian-inspired, but I’ve recently rekindled a love of making homemade pizzas on the grill.